There’s a prevalent myth that the majority of people seeking abortions are in their teens or trying to avoid parenthood, but study after study is proving that just isn’t the case.
According to the Guttmacher Institute, most people who have abortions are in their twenties, and two-thirds already have at least one child. Data from Guttmacher also shows that 14 percent are married, and another 31 percent were living with a partner when they became pregnant. Research from the National Center for Biotechnology Information has also shown that 62 percent of people having abortions had been in a relationship with their partner by whom they became pregnant for a year or longer, and 82 percent reported that their partner knew about the abortion. As it turns out, men aren’t just predominately aware of their partner’s choice to have an abortion, but also involved in the making of the decision.
For some, that decision to have an abortion was a turning point in their relationship that made it stronger, while for others (like myself), it can be a critical opportunity to leave a toxic relationship. Here, six people share how their abortion impacted their relationships.