Here’s one simple fact about abortion: everyone loves someone who’s had one. It’s a very common procedure but because of the way society shames people who choose to end a pregnancy we are often talked about as an abstract concept rather than as people in your own communities, friend circles and families. I popularized the phrase “Everyone loves someone who had an abortion” because those of us who have are often told we’re unworthy of love, sex, and pleasure. We hear it from politicians, loved ones and our communities. Sometimes those deprecating messages, or lack of defense from them, come from the very people we have sex with. We can and should expect more.