Nice Guys Kill to Stay Nice: On the Weaponizing of Kindness and Why ‘Perfect Abusers’ Don’t Exist
December 10, 2019“I don’t want to be like the other guys you met,” he said.
Flashback to two weeks ago: I met this guy who was so nice and cool, I would’ve popped my pussy right then and there. Honestly, it was never about wanting to fall in love, or wanting some long term relationship. I just wanted to laugh, be seen, vibe, and fuck. I wanted a connection that most cis-men struggle to create because there’s so much performance given to disguise the fact that they just want to fuck unceremoniously and leave. But I wasn’t looking for transactional, I wanted to feel like there was a possibility beyond long-term-forever-love and one-night-only-maybe-I’ll-cum-maybe-I-won’t-sex.