“This femme wants pastel colored hair, preferably lavender.”
It was such a simple Facebook status, but the journey that followed was anything but simple. It was six weeks full of complicated emotions, microaggressions, and respectability politics. It was six weeks of being hyperaware of my presence in different spaces and waiting for the inevitable stares and unwanted comments.
Let’s rewind and go through the full experience.
As a femme with a deep love for pastels, I started developing a profound want and need for lavender hair. At first, I kept it to myself. I spent hours perusing photos of Black naturals with pastel hair on Tumblr and Instagram. After awhile, it became too much to handle, and I knew it had to become a reality.