It’s frustrating. Queer sex isn’t uncommon. So why is it so challenging to find the information we need to take care of our sexual health?
In honor of International Women’s Day, YouTube launched the global initiative #DearMe, a compilation of women on YouTube sharing words of wisdom with their younger selves. So, in honor of International Women’s Day and Women’s History Month, I have been inspired to write a love letter to my younger self.
Being in queer women spaces, I realized that many folks identified as stud, boi, femme, lipstick lesbian, and other gender identities. It was really amazing to be in community with people who were proud of their gender presentations and gladly pronounced them as part of their identities.
Talking about relationships, consent, emotions and how these all play a role in sexual and nonsexual relationships is just as important — I argue more important — than telling your child storks do not deliver babies.
I want my daughter to have grown women who are complex role models.
I kept emphasizing that I have sex with women, and she kept not answering my questions, dodging them, and responding without directly taking on what I asked her.
I know, with certainty, that my father would not murder me.
My question is: why do people get to collectively comment on my body, my sex, my family, my choices, and my life circumstances?